Today is the first Dutch national " Coming Out Day ". I can just hear you thinking " Oh my god.. Ajira is going to tell us she's gay!", but you're wrong. Hey wait a minute... did you just say "she" ? wtf ?Uhm... well... yeah... kind of :P
Lets talk about the birds and the bees a bit. When a child is born, he/she gets a certain sex (the private bits) and a certain gender identity. In most cases the sex and the gender identity are the same. Someone is born with a penis, and identifies as a boy, or someone is born with a vagina and identifies as a girl. This is what we call "cisgender".
Unfortunately, sometimes these two are not the same. The person is born with a penis, but identifies as a girl; or is born with a vagina, but identifies as a boy. This is what we call "transgender". I am one of these people.
When I was a teenager, I discovered that certain parts of my body were not in place. I wasn't too comfy with them, and it didn't make much sense to me that I had them. By the age of 19 I had figured out what it was, and was shocked. I dropped into a state of denial and depression for several years. In June 2007, at age 29, I finally had the balls (oh the irony...) to acknowledge my problem and face the facts.
I'm currently in the process of going from male to female, but it takes time... a lot of time... You'll hear about the transition via this blog, as time goes by; It's too much to explain in one post. I will change, but I'm still the same person, with the same views, preferences, rants, etc... The only differences that you , the reader of my blog/website, will notice is that Tim van Dijk will slowly but surely cease to exist, and you will learn more and more about the real me: Ajira Kimberly van Dijk.
So.. stay tuned!